Friday, October 07, 2005
Ignored Again
A few weeks ago I told you about something the Japanese call mokusatsu (黙殺) which could be translated as "ignore to death." I'm not dead yet but I'm getting really tired of this crap.
I'm not going to rant and rave about what happened because I'm trying really hard to just let the whole thing go. If this person really wants me to go away, that's her loss. Or at least, that's what I've got to keep telling myself to avoid feeling frustrated and lonely.
So let's instead experiment with a video I made in the dorm, shall we? Please "right-click" and save this before watching it and enjoy watching me squirm in front of the camera.
VIDEO: Beware the Jet Towel!
I'm not going to rant and rave about what happened because I'm trying really hard to just let the whole thing go. If this person really wants me to go away, that's her loss. Or at least, that's what I've got to keep telling myself to avoid feeling frustrated and lonely.
So let's instead experiment with a video I made in the dorm, shall we? Please "right-click" and save this before watching it and enjoy watching me squirm in front of the camera.
VIDEO: Beware the Jet Towel!
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Dan, your video is random. It made me laugh. You are one strange guy. Cheer up about the girl thing. Romance sucks anyway. Your video cheered me up for the morning, although I still have a headache.
Dannon,
Sorry you've had this crap happen again... but, it happens everywhere here. For westerners, "mokusatsu" seems like a very immature way of handling people you don't want to deal with.
In a way though, I dig this method. Because, it avoids potentially nasty confrontations. But, I do feel terribly guilty to ignore a person's mail.. I guess that's a good thing though. People should be treated like they matter, that their feelings deserve recognition. As for mokusatsu, it just takes time to understand it.. after 5 years of living here I can more or less read between the lines and usually tell what a Japanese person really thinks of me. But, that decoder ring took ages to forge.
Anyway, I was going to wite about sour-puss oyaji that we ran into the other night and about my own trials of racism/predjuctice in za worldo. But, this morning while taking a taxi to work, the driver was obscenely kind to me. Basically, a polar opposite of that Yodayabashi looney toon. So, I've been thinking more deeply about my feelings towards things and people here... and, I'd say there's a balance out there.. It seems to be easier to remember the painful times more than the happy ones for people.
When we cruised Umeda the other night that was one of the best times I've had in JP. Chilling with my boy. Thanks Dan.
Steven Segal
Sorry you've had this crap happen again... but, it happens everywhere here. For westerners, "mokusatsu" seems like a very immature way of handling people you don't want to deal with.
In a way though, I dig this method. Because, it avoids potentially nasty confrontations. But, I do feel terribly guilty to ignore a person's mail.. I guess that's a good thing though. People should be treated like they matter, that their feelings deserve recognition. As for mokusatsu, it just takes time to understand it.. after 5 years of living here I can more or less read between the lines and usually tell what a Japanese person really thinks of me. But, that decoder ring took ages to forge.
Anyway, I was going to wite about sour-puss oyaji that we ran into the other night and about my own trials of racism/predjuctice in za worldo. But, this morning while taking a taxi to work, the driver was obscenely kind to me. Basically, a polar opposite of that Yodayabashi looney toon. So, I've been thinking more deeply about my feelings towards things and people here... and, I'd say there's a balance out there.. It seems to be easier to remember the painful times more than the happy ones for people.
When we cruised Umeda the other night that was one of the best times I've had in JP. Chilling with my boy. Thanks Dan.
Steven Segal
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: 08 October, 2005 08:53
: 08 October, 2005 08:53
Hyde: Thanks. Knowing that something I did here made you laugh over there is very rewarding to me.
Mr. Segal (sure have been a lot of celebrities around here lately): I can see the rationale behind it but for me, personally, I think the rudest possible way to treat someone is to ignore them. I'd rather this person just told me she found me physically unappealing or boring or whatever. Otherwise, it forces me to guess as to what's wrong with me, which isn't fair because maybe it's something wrong with her.
Glad my company entertains you. There's plenty more fun to be had!
Mr. Segal (sure have been a lot of celebrities around here lately): I can see the rationale behind it but for me, personally, I think the rudest possible way to treat someone is to ignore them. I'd rather this person just told me she found me physically unappealing or boring or whatever. Otherwise, it forces me to guess as to what's wrong with me, which isn't fair because maybe it's something wrong with her.
Glad my company entertains you. There's plenty more fun to be had!
I know what you mean... by not knowing what the source of the problem is.
I keep vying for roles in family flics (a long time ambition of mine). I so need to do an after school special; I'll be the nerdy kid who gets bullied and then I fight back... and snap some necks.
Anyway, if I lose a role to say Michael J. Fox, then I'll find some forgettable gutter dweller and waste 'em.
Steve
コメントがあります？ Type something, please. It's less work for me.I keep vying for roles in family flics (a long time ambition of mine). I so need to do an after school special; I'll be the nerdy kid who gets bullied and then I fight back... and snap some necks.
Anyway, if I lose a role to say Michael J. Fox, then I'll find some forgettable gutter dweller and waste 'em.
Steve
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